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End of the Year Reflection Questions

A new year is just around the corner.   Although, I am not big on New Year’s Resolutions, I do think there are certain times of the year that lend themselves well to reflection and planning.  The beginning of a new year is one of those times because it is often a time of transition after the holidays.  The beginning of  spring and fall can also be great times for reflection.

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Helpful Holiday Links from Therapists (Part 3): Children, Parenting & The Holidays

Experiencing holidays with the children in our lives can be so much fun.  Their excitement tends to be contagious.   On the other hand, the changes in routine, eating habits and sleep combined with the pressure to fulfill holiday expectations can create added stress for parents and children.

In this final post in the Helpful Holiday Links from Therapists series, I’ve compiled links which address common topics that emerge for parents during the holidays.  The tips contained in these posts are practical, helpful and come from therapist colleagues across the country.  I hope one or more of the links that I have shared will speak to you. Continue reading Helpful Holiday Links from Therapists (Part 3): Children, Parenting & The Holidays

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Helpful Holiday Links from Therapists (Part 2): Family, Relationships & The Holidays

Holidays are often a time when we reflect on our families and relationships.    Depending on your unique experiences and relationships, the opportunity or lack of opportunity to connect with family members during the holidays may trigger a variety of emotions including; joy, anxiety, frustration, disappointment, sadness, confusion and so much more.

Therapists across the country have been blogging about relationship dynamics that can play out during the holidays.   I am sharing links that I think provide helpful information and represent a variety of relationship themes that can emerge during the holidays. Although I can’t share links to cover every situation, I am hopeful that you will find a post that speaks to you or a loved one this holiday season. Continue reading Helpful Holiday Links from Therapists (Part 2): Family, Relationships & The Holidays

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Helpful Holiday Links from Therapists: Surviving the Holidays (Part 1)

Over the years that I have been practicing therapy, I have had the honor of witnessing the variety of ways in which people experience the holiday season.  Some clients have shared excitement and joy about the holidays, while others report feeling that the holidays amplify their existing struggles.

Based on similar experiences in their work, many of my therapist colleagues across the country have written powerful and helpful posts about navigating the holiday season.   Because there is so much great content that I wanted to share with you, I obtained permission from some my colleagues to compile their links into this series of posts on my blog. Continue reading Helpful Holiday Links from Therapists: Surviving the Holidays (Part 1)

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Giving the Gift of Self Care

Have you ever considered giving the gift of self care?    The gift of self care is a gift that encourages someone to prioritize his or her self care.  Self care is purposeful action that an individual takes to ensure their well-being.   Well-being can include; emotional health, mental health, physical health, and spiritual health.     Given this definition of self care and a little creativity, there are many possibilities for how we can give someone the gift of self care. Continue reading Giving the Gift of Self Care

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Stressors & Children: Holidays

Holidays can be very exciting  for children, but also very overwhelming.    Holidays are often accompanied by many things that are new or different for a child.   New activities.  New food.  Spending time with less familiar people.  New schedules.  Travel or spending time in less familiar places.   Unclear or different expectations.  If you think of everything that may be new for a child, it makes sense why a child may become stressed or overwhelmed during a holiday.   The good news is that by being aware of the potential stresses, we can help children manage and respond in a way that helps them enjoy the holiday as much as possible.  So, how do we do that? Continue reading Stressors & Children: Holidays

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Creating a Self Care Basket

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been out speaking to different groups about self care.    Many of you know this is a topic that I am passionate about, but to be totally honest, I often struggle to “walk the walk” in this area.  I am really good at telling myself excuses that get in the way of prioritizing my own self care.   There are always so many other things to be doing!

During these last few weeks as I was speaking more about self care again, I was reminded of an idea that I had this summer to create a self care basket.   This idea originally came to me when a fellow therapist asked me about the coping box activity I do with children and what items I would include in a coping box for adults. Continue reading Creating a Self Care Basket

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Stressors and Children: Social Interactions

Over the past few weeks, many children have headed back to school. In my Eagan therapy practice, one of the biggest school-related stressors that I hear about is related to social interactions. This is something children and their parents talk about year round, but especially at the beginning of the school year. Kids often worry about making friends and being liked. Parents often wonder how their child’s social skills compare to other children and worry about their children developing healthy relationships with their peers. In this post, I will explore how we can help our children identify and cope with the emotions they have about interacting with their peers and develop healthy social skills. Continue reading Stressors and Children: Social Interactions

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Stressors & Children: Travel

Travel can be incredibly stressful because there are many changes to our routines and things can feel unpredictable.   Many parents find traveling with children to be stressful, but it is also important to remember that children may experience traveling to be stressful, too.   If you haven’t already done so, you may want to check out my previous post about Stressors & Children.

Reflection: Preparing to Help Children Manage Stress While Traveling

Each travel experience is unique, so I encourage you to think through your upcoming travel plans and anticipate which elements may be most stressful for your child.    As I am writing this, I am reminded of a Daniel Tiger song that my own children often sing, “When we do something new, Lets talk about what we’ll do.”  Doing this type of reflection now can help you prepare your child for what to expect while traveling and help reduce the stress that can accompany encountering new situations.  This reflection also allows you the opportunity to consider how you can help your child manage stress while away from home.    Things to consider include: Continue reading Stressors & Children: Travel

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Stressors & Children

How is your stress level right now?  How is your child’s stress level?   We all experience stress at times, including children.    Yes, it is true that children don’t have the same responsibilities as adults, but there are certainly areas of their lives that can cause them stress as well.

Sometimes, as adults, we are not as good about recognizing when the children in our life are experiencing stress.  Some of the areas of life that cause adults stress (ex: relationship difficulties) also cause children stress, but there may be things that cause stress for our children that we as adults don’t even recognize as a stressor.

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