The dictionary defines identity as “the condition of being oneself or itself, and not another”
Often times, people describe feeling like they have lost a bit (or a lot) of their identity as they become parents. Some people may feel fine with this shift and others find it distressing.
I’ve heard this loss of identity presented as a concern from many women that I have encountered inside and outside of the therapy office. After their children are born, some women report that they don’t feel like themselves and struggle to find a sense of who they are outside of being a mother. Some mothers also report that they struggle in figuring out how to make time for the things that they love outside of their families because they are focused on their children and feel guilty if they shift their focus elsewhere for even brief periods of time. These types of concerns have been shared from parents across the board including; expectant parents, parents of infants, parents of school age children and parents of teens. Continue reading Where am I? What happened to me? Re-Discovering Your Identity After Becoming a Parent →